Part three: Accepting that self love is selfless. (Read till the end for 10 bonus reminders 😉)
Hey there, buddy. We’re now onto step three on the journey to self love. If you want to (re) read part one, you can do so here. Part two is here. Today’s article revolves around the selflessness of self love.
Now, you may be wondering why I’m weaving my argument around others and talking about selflessness when in fact, the topic at hand is self love. The reasoning behind this is quite simple, really. If you ever found it hard to love yourself, then you must be familiar with the urge, on most occasions, to put others first; the need to put other’s wishes, opinions and thoughts before your own for the simple reason that there’s a part of you that believes everyone else is better than you in some way or the other. (Yes, having negative thoughts about yourself while comparing your body to that of others’ counts.) Since habits are hard to break, we’ll take the easy way out, yeah? Because I strongly believe that there’s some good in everything, today we’ll achieve our goal by putting others’ first. Happy reading.
“In order to change the world, you must change yourself.”
This leads us to wonder what do people actually mean when they say that to change the world you need to change yourself ? Aren’t we supposed to just be ourselves, so why change? Well, it’s quite simple, actually. The world in question is just a matter of opinions and point of views. So the change is only in our perspective, how we view ourselves. Trust me, buddy, you can remain exactly the way you are and learn to love yourself like never before. It’s all in the way you see things, it’s all in your perception of the world. And for most of us, our opinion of the world depends much on our opinion of our direct surroundings; our environment, our family, our friends all impact how we perceive the world. Therefore, if you try as much as you can to keep yourself happy, to care for yourself, to take life in one second at a time, you are actually changing the world, buddy, because the way you feel affects your surroundings. Think about it, did it ever happen that you were feeling down and everything seemed to be going wrong but someone managed to change your mood completely in a matter of seconds? Did it ever happen that someone else’s laughter was cheerful enough to bring a smile to your tear-stained, anxious face? I guess we all had such a moment. A moment when a blessed soul managed to lift our hearts by keeping their own spirits high in the gloomiest of days.
How about the opposite? Did it ever happen that you were ecstatic, so very warm and fuzzy with happiness glowing through your very being before meeting someone who was sad, hurt and depressed enough to bring a 180 ° change in your mood? Someone whose negativity seemed enough to crush your happiness? If both events happened to you or you can imagine how it would feel if they did happen, then you got my point.
The choice of whether to brighten people’s days or pass on the negativity is yours. How you feel will always affect your loved ones. If you can’t accept yourself for who you are, you won’t be able to accept anyone around you for whom they are. Hate and criticism for others stem from insecurity. What you see in others exists in you. People who are able to love themselves despite their flaws are those who look for the rainbow when it rains. These are the people who try to be optimistic and look for happiness in every situation and that’s why they tend to be happier than others. That’s why I can confidently say that the most selfless of all loves is self love and there is nothing wrong in putting yourself first. Nothing wrong in choosing yourself before others. In the end, a happy you is a happy world. If you love and accept yourself, you’ll feel more at home in this world and you’ll view it under a more optimistic light.
Wouldn’t the world be marvelous if everyone managed to keep themselves happy? Well, it starts with you.
Today, and all the days that are to come, you will conciously take care of yourself, nurse your feelings and try to take life in little by little. Because now you know that it is not just about you. Now you know why self love matters and how it can make others’ lives better. Now you know how important it is to be there for yourself and you are ready to accept yourself.
Feel that urge to take immediate action? Congratulations, partner. You are now ready to change the world. Here’s what you need to keep in mind:
1. You are worth the best things in life.
2. You are kind, smart, beautiful, talented, loved, confident and capable.
3. You can do anything you set your mind to. Nobody can tell if you’ll succeed or fail, they are not you. Trust yourself.
4. Failure is necessary to succeed and it is the best teacher in life.
5. Self-love is important in building a better world.
6. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t fully love anyone else- you are likely to focus on their flaws.
7. It won’t happen overnight; but it will happen. I believe in you.
8. Nothing can be achieved if you don’t believe in yourself.
9. The road is toughest at the peak of the mountain but if you take a few steps forward, you’ll find yourself running down the slope. Don’t ever give up. Loving yourself unconditionally won’t be easy, but it is worth it.
10. You are all you need. Loving yourself allows you to become everything that you ever loved. You won’t ever rely on anybody to make you feel good about yourself.
P.S This is the end of the Self-love series and although there are still many things to be told, everyone is different and I don’t want to delve deeper into things some might find irrelevant. Good luck and if you want any more advice, you can comment down below or DM me on my instagram @priyanka_ramdahen.
As always, here’s some quotes stolen from Google for y’all.
Sending you loads of love and positivity, Priyanka.